Here's the thing: life is work. It's not a dress rehearsal, and it's never too late to change your outlook, to consciously shift your perspective.
LIFE USED TO BE SIMPLE AND CLEAR
You knew what you wanted, or at least what was expected. You followed "The Plan," and life moved along as it should.
Until it didn't.
Now, everything you thought you knew is a giant pile of question marks.
Over all this time, as you've adapted and pivoted to meet the needs and desires of everyone else, you've lost track of yourself.
Life transitions - changes in relationships, job or career, family dynamics, or the death of a loved one - can be challenging enough. When you're not clear on who you are and on what matters most to you, it feels like you're adrift at sea, grasping at anything to simply stay afloat.
I can relate. I get it.
For over half my life, I followed "The Plan," too. I had everything I was "supposed to" have: career, marriage, house, family. And yet I lived from a place of less-than - scarcity, dissatisfaction, martyrdom - all manifestations of FEAR. I believed I was responsible for the happiness of others, and forgot the importance of taking care of my own self and soul. Eventually, at the darkest time of my life, I felt like I was standing on the brink of a vast and bottomless abyss with my toes hanging over the edge of the cliff. Everything in my life was in a chaotic freefall, and my only thoughts were of escape. I believed that my only option was to blow it all up and let the rubble get sorted out.
And then I had an awakening.
During one of many sleepless nights in that period of my life, I googled, "how do I forgive?" The first statement I read was, "Forgiveness isn't something you do for the other person."
That was when I began to understand what was missing. I had to learn how to forgive - not only others, but more importantly, myself.
I came to realize that in order to navigate life's many changes, twists and turns, what is most important is leaning in and dealing - denial and avoidance only delay the process.
In order to navigate my own transitions, I first had to anchor myself. I had to shift from living on autopilot to being present, from drifting to charting my own course of action.
I had to become who I was waiting for.
So when I say, "I get it," here's what I mean:
I mean that sustainable, positive change is possible.
I mean that transformation can be effective and long lasting.
I mean that each of us has a story, and I've been where you are.
And now I'm here, ready to hear your story and help you find your way.
When you work with me, I will offer you a lifeline back to yourself.
Once you find your footing and can stand again with clarity and confidence, I will be right here to help you navigate your own path - not around, over, or under, but through the changes.
Let's set up a discovery call and talk about your possibilities!
JOY WARRIORS SPEAK
I have been able to believe in myself for the first time in my life. No doubts about my abilities or emotional strength. This journey for self love has helped me focus on my needed goals, knowing that it's okay to let go and be.
I have also learned and continue to learn to let go of judgement and reinforce my boundaries with respect, and not feeling guilty. As guilty feelings plagued me most of my life, this is a huge accomplishment.
Virginia listened patiently and got me. She expressed her perspective on what might be happening in the life situation I described to her, but she did not tell me what she thought I should do or in any way try to "move" me to a certain realization or action. I appreciate that she (provided) a safe space for me to talk.